This is Why Your Toes Twitch (Because There’s Always Paranormal Explanation)

Do you have a toe or set of toes that just wont seem to stop twitching? It really can be quite bothersome. It can happen when you’re awake or when you are sleeping causing the nerves of muscles above or below the toes to become enflamed.

Many medical professionals at the sign of toes twitching will diagnose as restless leg or severe dehydration, as well as a warning signs of other serious illnesses which certainly may be the case, but what is most interesting is the phenomenon known as “astral myclonus”, and the understanding goes a little something like this….

When the seeker is exploring out of body, the physical body can develop twitches or jerking known as the “myclonic jerk” as he or she plunges deep down into the unconscious, these spasms or twitches may also be accompanied by other signs and symptoms.

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Watch: Wayne Dyer Explain How The Purpose of Life is to Die Before You Die

“We all have a return trip to take on this round trip journey.”
Listen as Wayne Dyer goes on to tell us the incredible story of the parrot and the cage, and the importance of learning to die while we are still alive so that we may free our consciousness.

“….was a picture of someone or something that was so mysterious and so difficult to comprehend because it could always be something out there is a great teacher who came many years after that his name was roomy who was a gelatin room who is a great poet a Persian poet in the 14th century and he had he had a line he said the day that you were born a ladder was set up to help you to escape from this world i believe that the doubted chain and this thing that I have done this change your thoughts change your life effort that i spent one full year on every single day doing exactly what i just said is a ladder that will help you to return in the dow is a very famous line the 41st of the dial says returning the motion of the dow so that all of us came from a divine spiritual essence invisible everything in the world of form emanated from something that is formless there was a split second when you went from non-being to being and what Lao Tzu was trying to teach was to be able to return to that place from which you came and live your life from the spiritual perspective and be come a God realized being another great poet TS Eliot once said we shall not cease from exploration and at the end of all of our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time for the first time what I’m asking you to do and what allowed to seem to be saying was learned to die while you’re alive because you will ultimately return all of us have return trip of a round-trip ticket when we came in then with but if you could learn to die while you’re alive and there’s a great story I have I have to tell you this so i want to read this story to you its a way to look at this idea of dying while you’re alive it’s it goes like this to die while we are alive gives us the only opportunity will we will ever have to get outside of this package that houses of temporarily there’s an ancient parable that repeated generation after generation by the spiritual masters of india which illustrates this point listen for this wonderful story a traveler from India went to Africa to acquire some local products and animals and while in the jungle he saw thousands of beautiful multicolored talking parrots he decided to capture a talking parrot and take it back as his pet at home he kept his parrot in a cage and he fed him any given wonderful seeds and honey and played music for his pet and generally he treated him very well when it was time for the man to return to Africa two years later he asked his parrot if there was any message that he could deliver to the parents friends who are back in the jungle well the parents told his master to say that he was very happy in his cage and that he was enjoying each day and to convey his love well when the traveler arrived back in Africa he delivered the message to the
parents back in the jungle just as he finished his story apparent with tears welling up in his eyes fell over dead the man was alarmed and he decided that the parent must have been very close to the parrot in the cage and that this was probably the reason for the sadness and for his demise when the traveler return to India he told his pet what happened as he finished his story the pet parrots eyes welled up with tears and he kneeled
over dead in his cave the man was astounded but he figured that his pet died from the despair of hearing of the death of his close
friends back in the jungle the freighter opened up the cage and toss the dead bird outside onto the trash immediately the pet parrot flew up to a branch on the tree outside the Creator said to him so you’re not dead after all why did you do that you tricked me and the parent responded because that bird back in Africa sent me a very important message what was the message the trader wanted to know he told me that if you want to escape from your cage you must die while you’re alive.
We must indeed die while we are alive in order to be able to look back at our waking consciousness and see ourselves trapped in our cage which in our case is our body and then we will see how
unnecessary it is to remain caged.

The Zen of Attraction: 14 Guidelines to Live By

The Zen of Attraction: 14 Guidelines to Live By


I am sure you’ve heard of the Law of Attraction before… now on the other hand there is what’s known as the “Zen of Attraction”. Most commonly understood as the path of least resistance and it is a simple idea really.

When we allow life to flow naturally, that is to say, allowing nature to take its course, we find that we aren’t exhausting our efforts every step of the way. Then we find that have gained the ability “to get out of our own way”, which also is a fundamental understanding and teaching in Zen Buddhism.

Here are the 14 Guidelines to Live By:

The Zen of Attraction

6 Steps to Balance Your Karma with Your Dharma

6 Steps to Balance Your Karma with Your Dharma
You’ve heard both of these words in various contexts – Karma as a consequence to your actions, and Dharma as your own inner code of conduct. But did you know that both of these are so inter-connected that the human life cannot do without them?

As Human Beings, we must learn to balance between the Human side of us as well as the Being side of us. When we lose that balance, the imbalance shows up in our anger, resentment, and suffering. Or worse, in our illnesses, accidents and addictions.

So to keep the balance, our everyday life is about swinging from Doing-to-Being-to-Doing-to-Being… As human beings, we can’t forever be content in sitting still in solitude, but we also feel chaotic if we’re constantly doing-doing-doing.

6 Steps to Balance Your Karma with your Dharma

1. Assess which way you lean – If you tend to be laid back, letting others lead, and you’re wondering why life isn’t going the way you want it, maybe it’s time to try taking more action. If you’re the type to be constantly on the go, then it’s necessary for you to build in more pauses into your day.

2. Pick up what’s missing – Think of the one thing you feel is lacking in your life right now. If it’s more than one thing, just pick the most important one – whether it’s meditation, volunteering, or whatever you feel is missing at this moment. And think of a way to invite more of it into your life.

3. Create a time and a place – Think of a time and a place when you will consciously make space for what’s missing. For example, if you’re more action-oriented, make sure to create a time and place where you can sit still for a few minutes. If you tend to have lots of alone-time at home, then make it a point to find a time and place when you can go walking or running or connecting with others through volunteering or whatever you’re feeling called to do.

4. Make it a ritual – The reason to make your time and place and action (or non-action) a ritual is so that you can infuse that time and place with the energy and momentum to keep it going everyday. Coming back to the same place at the same time everyday or every week has a way of reconnecting you with the same energy for you to keep going.

5. Practice for at least 21 days – One way to ensure you’ll continue to find your balance is to commit to practicing it for at least 21 days or more. When you can keep to your new routine for so many days, it becomes regular – it might even become a habit.

6. Test and Tweak – After 21 days, take a look back at how you’ve done – if you feel better, more balanced in your everyday, or if you feel out of balance. If you feel out of balance, adjust your ritual to add more of what you need, and let go of what’s not working.

Each person must find their balance between the Being and the Doing to live a healthy, meaningful life. Once you find that balance, you’ll notice that you’re more aware of your daily activities, more attuned to when you feel out of balance, and more willing to bring yourself back into alignment.

About the Author:

Saiisha is a soulistic life coach for old souls who are already on a spiritual path, but are still feeling lost. She helps them get unstuck from their karmas, discover their Dharma, and follow the path that will bring them closer to the life they’re meant to live.

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10 Amazing Things That Happen When You Drink Only Water for 30 Days

I’m one of the first people to advocate water. I recently started drinking five glasses a day. I drink a glass of water when I first wake up, with each meal and before I go to bed. This has left me more full and improved my weight loss. When water is your primary beverage, it is going to make your body feel tremendously better.

First and foremost, drinking only water helps to slow down aging. When our body is hydrated, our skin looks healthier and is more soft. There is more of a glow to our skin and wrinkles have a tendency to not show up as frequently. Similarly, it’s going to help keep our muscles strong as we exercise and follow a healthy diet. These benefits, however, only hold true when a person drinks pure water. This is either tap water or bottled water, but does not included any waters that have artificial flavors. I used to trick myself with those to get myself to drink water, but it really doesn’t work to your benefit.

Drinking water also helps to prevent headaches. Have you ever had a headache and grabbed a Sierra Mist? I’m guilty of this as well, but what our bodies really needed was water. When we go without water too long, our body lets us know. We start to get a headache or migraine. Then, we drink a few glasses of water, don’t you find that your headache starts to slip away? It’s possible that your body was just dehydrated. That’s what I enjoy so much about drinking five glasses a day. I’m not going to get dehydrated and my body is not going to experience that many headaches. Water really can be a cure when you need it the most.

A big reason to drink water is that it curbs our appetite. If you’re struggling to lose weight, drink water. Drinking water before each meal helps your body feel full for longer. If you know you’ll have a lot of food in front of you, drink a glass of water prior to going our for dinner. This is going to help you intake fewer calories. It’s also going to help your digestive system break down your food much easier. When we are dehydrated, our digestive system takes longer to pass food from the stomach to the kidneys and then to the colon. Cut this time in half just by staying hydrated. You’ll find that you feel much healthier.

On another note, water keeps our kidneys in working order. Our kidneys are the housekeepers of our body. They move waste and toxins out of our body. When you’re drinking enough water, your urine should be clear and odor free, while bowel movements move with ease from your colon. On the contrary, when you don’t drink enough water, this is where constipation and diarrhea come into play. You’re going to find that your trips to the bathroom are much longer and  more difficult. Drinking too little water could also make you a higher risk for kidney stones, which are never fun.

Water also plays a key role in a healthy heart. When you drink water before bed, you are working to lower your risk of a heart attack or stroke. This is due to the fact that water helps your organs work more efficiently while you are sleeping. It makes the blood circulate better throughout the body, while helping it from clotting. Blot clots anywhere in the body can quickly travel to the heart. These can lead to death if they go unnoticed or untreated, so make sure you get up and do some form of exercise each day.

Moreover, drinking an adequate amount of water helps to reduce cancer. Water helps to keep the organs function as they were intended, which means it protects the organs and everything surrounding it. People that drink at least five glasses of water a day are likely to see a reduced risk of colon cancer than those that drank two glasses a day, Similarly, drinking enough water can lower a woman’s chances of encountering breast cancer by up to thirty-three percent. Drinking water really can reduce or eliminate a lot of illnesses. It’s the only beverage that is nearly guaranteed to keep your body young and healthy for the majority of your life.

Drinking water for 30 days can also trim your muffin top. Once you start drinking water regularly, your body starts trimming fat around your vital organs. It removes harmful toxins and waste from your body that stick to your body like super glue. Near the 30-day mark, however, you’re going to see results. Your body is going to start to look slimmer. You may have gone down a pant or dress size and your double chin may be decreasing. These are all wonderful things! It’s hard to be patient, but keep it up. Results will come but you have to work for them.

On a different note, drinking water for a month can improve your cognition. Your memory, concentration and overall mental health is going to improve. You’re going to find that you’re sleeping better at night. Those that struggle with anxiety are going to find that they are much happier throughout the day. And, above all else, you’re going to feel energetic.

You’re going to want to get up and move around. If you had fatigue, that is long gone by the end of the month. Drinking water is going to be night and day for you. You’re going to see a vast improvement in how productive you are on each task.

Adding fruit slices to water can also have a benefit on your health. This is different from flavoured water because flavoured water uses artificial ingredients. With the fruit slices, you’re getting extra benefits that exceed water. For instance, if you add lemon slices to your water, you’re helping to boost your immune system. This is because lemons are packed with Vitamin C, which helps to fight against influenza and the common cold. Adding limes into the water with the lemons helps to lower your blood pressure and regulate your bowel movements.

Finally, drinking water for 30 days is going to help you while you exercise. We lose a lot of water while on the treadmill or weight machines. Most of our water is lost through breathing or sweat. This is why we’re so thirsty when we leave the weight room.

Try to keep water with you at all times. Your body needs the fuel to keep going post workout. And lastly, I bet you’re wondering how much water to drink. Most experts recommend that you drink half your body weight in water. If you weigh 140 pounds, for example, this is roughly around 70 ounces of water. I have a 20-ounce bottle of water I use to drink my water each day, drinking around 100 ounces. I might not need that much, but I spread it out. If drinking water gives you anxiety, space it out during the day. It has worked for you and that method could certainly work for you.

Science Says Weighted Blankets Help Relieve Symptoms of Insomnia and Anxiety

Science Says Sleeping With a Weighted Blanket Helps to Relieve Symptoms of Insomnia and Anxiety

It’s well past midnight and you’re wide awake. Your mind races with financial worries and family related issues. You try to close your eyes, but they relentlessly open up again. Then your to-do list starts to run through your mind. Did I pay the power bill? Did I send a check to the hospital for the MRI? Did the clients at work read my report I poured my time over all day yesterday? It goes on and on.

Insomnia disrupts sleep but what if there was a way to peacefully go to sleep at a reasonable hour? There is—and that is to use a weighted blanket.

The main concept behind the weighted blanket is to calm people from their anxiety or stress. Studies have indicated when specific parts of the body are touched, like the feet or back, our bodies release serotonin. This is the happy hormone that boosts our mood, while it also frees us of anxiety so we can enjoy a restful sleep. The weighted blanket is known as a deep-touch therapy. It stimulates a person to feel the warmth and comfort of a blanket, similar to the method they felt when they were in infancy.

Weighted blankets also assist those that have anxiety, insomnia or pain. Many of these people are restless throughout their sleep or find it hard to sleep at all. When these individuals used a weighted blanket, however, they were more grounded in their sleep and enjoyed a more peaceful rest. Those individuals that live with post-traumatic stress disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder or attention deficit hyperactive disorder all have reported positive outcomes from using the blanket.

The blanket also benefits those suffering from menopause, autism, Tourette’s, cerebral palsy or alzheimer’s disease.

The reason these blankets work is that it calms the nervous system. The blanket moulds to the person’s body, while plastic poly pellets are weighted evenly all throughout the blanket. It stimulates that the person is being hugged. This helps to calm and comfort the patient, relieving them of their worries. The office can worry about itself, in essence, because nobody should carry anxiety around that is not their own.

This blanket, too, is going to lift your serotonin levels. It’s going to put you into a better mood and make you more relaxed. Before you know it, you’ll be enjoying a pleasant dream.

Isn’t it time you took back your life? Why should you have to worry about responsibilities that you can’t change or those that don’t directly impact you? Quite honestly, that’s not fair to you.

This blanket is going to give you your life back. All the sleep you have been missing is going to be restored. This deep therapy through the weighted blanket is worth it. Say good-bye to those nights where you tossed and turned so much that your spouse was convinced there was an earthquake.

If this is you, then you need the weighted blanket. It’s going to regulate your body’s systems back to where they need to be.

You’ll feel much better after a good night’s rest!

9 Ways to Set Healthy Boundaries and Maintain Them

9 Ways to Set Healthy Boundaries and Maintain Them

Boundaries are important in our lives in order to have healthy relationships and careers.

Unfortunately,  many of us struggle with setting healthy boundaries in our emotional and professional lives maybe in fear of being misunderstood or seen as selfish. As we struggle with setting these boundaries and making promises to ourselves, we watch others walk over us, take advantage of us or mistreat us. Some of us feel more guilt, some of us feel weak. Whatever the reason may be behind our failure of setting personal boundaries, we need to remind ourselves that if we do not have them, we will always have a hard time communicating with others.

So how do we handle this? There are easy steps to do it and we will talk about them now here.

1. Set your limits

When we find ourselves face to face with difficult situations or with difficult people, it is important for us to know where we stand. It is also important to know what we want and what we expect for ourselves and from others. Knowing where we stand and our goals will help us better identify our limits.

2. Listen to your gut feeling

When we trust our intuition, we can read between the lines, we can see things much sooner than others from a different perspective. Our intuition usually gives us early warning signs when something does not feel right or someone has negative energy. If you feel like something does not look or feel right trust your gut feeling. When you sense it, observe it carefully and identify the cause of the problem. This also helps for good opportunities since everything is not bad or negative. When you feel like something is right, eliminate your fears and concerns and be more positive and brave about taking the next step.

3. Meditate

We spend too much time living in the past or in the future. We let our worries, our resentments and fears overpower us sometimes, forgetting about what we have now and enjoying this very moment. Sometimes we let guilt and anger take over. We let negativity blind us and scare us. Think about how many opportunities you have missed. Maybe with a certain someone for a good relationship, because we were stuck in the past, trying to overcome the troubles of a prior relationship. Sometimes we miss a good opportunity at work because we are not ready to take the necessary steps. Sometimes we lack focus. One way to stop this is to practice mindfulness meditation. It keeps us grounded and it teaches us to live in the present moment. It enhances our focus and helps us organize our thoughts.

4. Speak your mind

If you do not let others know about your boundaries, they will never have a clue. Communication is the key. When you know exactly what you want and how you want it, do not hesitate to let others know your limits. When people understand where you are coming from, they will be able to communicate with you their limits as well. With the help of communication, you can easily find a common ground.

5. Keep a journal

Every time you feel like you are having a hard time maintaining your boundaries, write it down. Analyze why you are having a hard time. What have you missed when you found yourself face to face with a certain person or a certain situation? Were you weak? Were you worried? Were you afraid of being misunderstood or selfish? Write everything down and think and rethink about what you could do instead. Can you go back and fix the situation? Or what can you do differently next time to not find yourself in the same place? Writing these things will help you have better focus and courage next time you encounter similar situations.

6. Change your mind

Having boundaries does not make you a selfish person or a bad person. Remind yourself that it is perfectly fine and healthy to set boundaries and maintain them. Others have them. Think of how you see others with good strength when it comes to maintaining their own boundaries. Do you think of them as selfish or do you believe they are rigid? Of course there are people who are rigid and they have unreasonable demands but you are not one of them. Allow yourself to feel better about yourself for knowing your limits.

7. Respect others’ boundaries

If you think that your boundaries are reasonable and necessary but others’ are not as important as yours, you are not being realistic. It is only fair to show respect reciprocally as others are as important as you. Remember that respect goes both ways. If you lack showing respect to others then do not expect them to respect you either. However, recognize the difference between healthy boundaries and rigid boundaries. Rigid boundaries are selfish and they mostly come from people who tend to control others. When you identify them, you will also stop others from controlling you.

8. Be patient with yourself

Change does not come overnight. It takes time. Just like we need to exercise regularly to build muscles, you need to practice your boundaries on a regular basis. It is something new that we learn. Change is not easy. After all we are trying to reverse years worth of bad habits and we need to be patient and understanding with ourselves. We need to also show the same amount of understanding towards others as they may also be struggling to maintain their own boundaries and they also will need time to build strength.

9. Reward yourself and others

When we achieve something and we notice we made progress, the best way to celebrate it is to reward ourselves. It could be a little gift we buy for ourselves, a treat like a favorite dessert or drink. Why not? You have tried and it worked. It is a good feeling. Likewise, you can also reward others when you notice they are on the right path. Encouragement always helps us and sharing it with others only makes it bigger and better.

10 Signs the Universe is Trying to Tell You Something

10 Signs the Universe is Trying to Tell You Something

How many times do you ask the Universe to show you a sign if something is going to happen or if something is good or bad for you? We are in desperate need of communicating with the Universe, but oftentimes we do not know how, or worse, we do not know how to read the signs.

Sometimes we go back in time and think to ourselves, “I should have known, because this or that had happened and it was a sign!” The good news is, there are ways to be in tune with the Universe and to understand what the message is. And the signs are everywhere if we know where to look, how to see and how to listen. Sometimes we receive messages about good things but we also receive messages about bad things. It is good to be aware of them. Here are 10 things you should pay attention to in order to decode the messages from the Universe:

1. You feel increased intuition

When you find yourself more open and more aware of what is going on around you, it means you are trusting your intuition. Our intuition is very connected with the Universe. If you have a sudden good or bad feeling about something, some place or someone, stop and read your thoughts carefully. There is a reason why we feel the way we feel, because everything is made of energy and everything holds its own vibration.

Some vibrations make us feel good while others make us feel uneasy. It is because we interact with everything and everyone around us. We exchange energies. Sometimes a look in someone’s eyes or their body language give away a lot of clues. Or when you go to a certain place, the colours, the environment, people in that place affect our own vibration in a positive or negative way. If you have a sudden unexplained good or bad feeling, do not be so quick to dismiss it. It may be a sign from the Universe.

2. You believe in yourself and in the Universe

Sometimes we lose our skeptical side all of a sudden. We see we have more faith and we feel spiritually higher and mentally clearer. When the Universe sends us messages it also sends us faith. Faith does not have to be religious, in fact most of the time it is not religious. It is a feeling that we can not describe but we know it exists and it is there for a reason. We simply believe it not because we need to but because we simply realize that it is the right thing.

3. You are more open to receive the answers

When we know how to trust, and when we surrender ourselves completely to the Universe, we can then become more open to receive the answers. It is important to be in the present moment and be completely free of worries and fears and judgments most importantly. Judgments cloud our intuition and it blocks our receivers. Tell yourself you are ready to receive whatever comes your way and you will accept it. You are ready to accept it.

4. You notice little changes easily

Do you ever think about it when someone points out little details to you and you wonder how they notice such little things? Sometimes someone describes certain situations with great accuracy and it makes your jaw drop. People who trust their gut feelings and who are open to receive, notice little details and changes very easily. At any given moment, things happen to get our attention. Sometimes we are too busy to look at them or to listen to them and sometimes we do not even care about them. When you start receiving signs from the Universe, you will see that you will be more aware of every little detail around you.

5. You notice recurring events or repeating numbers

If you did not notice the first time, you will certainly notice it when it happens again and again and again. Some people for example see 11:11 constantly. They find themselves checking the clock exactly at that time without even knowing and then they realize it happened again. It can be any number. Sometimes certain events keep repeating that you did not think much of in the beginning but now that you keep seeing the same thing you ask yourself what it means for you. Certainly it is a way the Universe is sending you codes to decipher.

6. You hear a song or see an image or a word in print

Sometimes you think of someone and you notice an ad with something that reminds you of that person. Or that person calls you maybe. Sometimes you think of something and a very appropriate song for that situation suddenly plays on the radio. Maybe you were thinking of a loved one who passed and the song was their favourite song. Then maybe this person was trying to communicate with you. You think of a place and on TV you see something about that place. If you are unable to understand why it is happening at that moment, write it down and mark the time and date. Maybe you will see more signs relating to that same thing and you will start to understand why this is happening.

7. A sudden illness

Sometimes when everything goes well, you suddenly feel sick. But you can not explain why. Chances are the Universe is trying to warn you about a possible negative situation. Maybe it is trying to stop you from meeting someone or going to a place. Maybe you need to lay down and slow down to really start thinking of things. Maybe you were too busy beating yourself up for something that is not meant for you. It could be all of those things. When you feel down, when you feel sick, take this time to reflect back into your life and figure out what can be wrong.

8. Negative remarks from certain people

This happens for two reasons. Either the Universe is trying to show us the true identity of a certain person by revealing it through their own words towards us or these remarks are a sign that we are getting ourselves into an unpleasant or risky situation. We may have our channels closed when we want something so bad or when we think so highly of someone due to things that we lack in our personal or professional lives. During these times we lose our better judgment because we are not open. It is wise to pay attention to negative things as much as we pay attention to positive things.

9. You have unexplained anger or worry

This is also connected to your intuition. When you feel like this, you need to stop and realize that something is not right and your intuition is trying to communicate with you. Just breathe, slow down and try to see and identify what is making you feel this way.

10. Losing or breaking something important

You are thinking of someone and suddenly the clumsy in you peaks out. Maybe it is not the clumsy in you but it is the Universe telling you something else. It can also be that you lose something important to you instead of breaking. When you notice you lost something and you can not find it, pay attention to whom or to what you have been thinking just prior to that moment. It might be a sign inviting you to analyze things closer.

10 Signs You Have a Toxic Parent

10 Signs You Have a Toxic Parent

We all would love to think and believe that we have the perfect parents who do the best for us. But the reality can sometimes be far from that.

Unfortunately, neither our parents, nor their parents, and their grandparents so on and so forth have been perfect. We are humans and perfection is not in our genes. When we are raised, we are open to wounds from all angles and unfortunately sometimes these wounds come from people who are the closest to us: our parents. Sometimes these wounds are physical but most of the time, they are mental wounds. The kind that is hard to heal and the kind that leaves a permanent mark in our hearts and minds.

It is hard as a kid, no matter how old you are to deal with your parents flaws and negativity. It is hard as a child but it is just as much hard as an adult. But once we recognize them, and identify them, we can maybe find ways to work around them and maybe heal our wounds.

1. They are overly critical.

Constructive criticism is good and it helps us grow a thicker skin to fight in life and to be able to stand on our feet. However, criticism gets ugly when it is constantly negative and destructive. Is your parent doing this to you?

No matter how hard you try, all you ever hear is your flaws or how much harder you still have to work because you are not yet good enough? Do you ever feel like your parents are not able to see your progress and appreciate it? Do you feel like you are trying in vain? Then you are right to feel this way because you are being subjected to destructive criticism. Usually parents who did not achieve their goals tend to put a lot of pressure on their kids and want them to become people they once wanted to be but failed at it. Do not let this bring you down, just recognize that this is who they are and nothing you can ever do will change it. The truth is not that you are not good enough. They just do not have a heart to appreciate it.

2. They always put their feelings first.

In the middle of a conversation or an argument, you are trying to explain your feelings and your thoughts but the main topic suddenly shifts from your feelings to theirs and before you know it all you ever hear about is how your parent thinks and feels and you, as their kid, do not appreciate them and do not care about them. They might make you believe that you are selfish to think about yourself or to feel a certain way, because why not? You need to put your parents first, even before yourself. This is not true. Always remember that you are an individual, a human being with feelings and thoughts and no one else can be in your shoes. Even if it is your parent, you have to accept the fact that everyone’s thoughts and feelings matter. No one is more or less important than anyone else.

3. You are their parent.

There are households where the child has to take the role of a parent sometimes. It is an unfortunate thing, but it happens. Do you always run after your parent trying to stop them from doing something they should not be doing or do you need to take care of them because they do not want to take care of their own responsibilities? This can be as simple as cooking and cleaning or waking them up in the morning, or picking them up from places. But this can also mean taking charge mentally because your parent is not thinking as an adult or is not thinking rationally. A very undesirable situation but an existing one. No child should take the role of a parent growing up.

4. They constantly give you guilt and control you with material things.

Some parents, especially the ones who are overly critical, tend to give their kids guilt for the things they do or say. When a parent has issues with control, they tend to put guilt on others as a control mechanism. When they can not achieve this then they might try to control their kids by withholding money from them or taking away something that means a lot to the kid or something important that the kid is using on a daily basis. Unfortunately in cases like this, even if you fix one problem, the parent will find something else in order to give guilt and control the child.

5. They don’t respect your personal space.

How can you teach a child to respect others when as a parent you do not show them what respect looks and feels like? As a kid, they need to feel valuable and worthy enough to have their own personal space and their own privacy. When your parent constantly invades your personal space they will find every opportunity to let you know you can not have your freedom until you no longer live with them. But the truth is, they are invading your space no matter how old you are. Of course a parent should keep an eye on their kids but to do that in aggressive or sneaky ways will only open scars in a kid who is trying hopelessly to become an individual himself.

6. Their motives are selfish in nature

Alike to narcissists, a toxic parent will control every moment of your time with them. Motivated only by what serves them best. These types of parents or grandparents often engage in activities in which they prefer rather than listening to you and choosing to support the activities you prefer. Toxic parents tend to be more focused on presenting themselves to their friends and extended family as a “perfect family” yet lack acceptance patience, love and understanding of each others needs and wants.

7. They scare you

Toxic parents tend to scare even their adult children and are known to have ruled their homes by a fear based style and structure. You may find that these especially toxic ones scare even their adult children. As you grow older and become a parent yourself it is important to remember how you felt when you were a child in order not to repeat the same behaviour as the toxic parent in your life. If and when it is time for you to raise your own, always remember that fear does not equal respect!

The way you speak to your children becomes their inner voice. Speak with kindness. Always choose to have patience with your children and your family. After all the best gift you can give them is your time, your patience, your unconditional love and support. The world is rough enough, make home is a safe place. No matter their age, that they can always rely on when they need it most.

8. Zero Tolerance

A toxic parent lacks self-control and will have a tendency to lash out irrationally at any given moment. Toxic parents do not possess the patience and understanding needed to nurture their children to become emotionally intelligent most often because they too are misunderstood, with deep emotional wounds that have stunted their intellectual growth.

They rule with fear as mentioned above and have zero tolerance when working out the every day life’s problems. However, this fear that they are attempting to pour into you, is a sad attempt at getting you to listen to them all because they lack the tools needed to parent in a more loving and compassionate manner.

9. They have no boundaries

Toxic parents have difficulty understanding boundaries and thus, their children may also exhibit these same difficulties especially in their teenage years. Toxic parents as they grow older will also struggle with determining their role as grandparents, and will most predictably over-step their roles at every turn.

As we are known to be products of our own environments, setting healthy boundaries is essential throughout all of the stages of our lives.

10. A toxic parent is a child that never healed.

Please remember that your toxic parent is a child that never healed. They too would have been raised in the same manner in which they are now projecting on to you. Your toxic parent will have absorbed a similar parenting style and mannerisms as their parents before and quite simply, haven’t been shown a better way.

This does not excuse the behaviour which can be quite simply emotionally abusive, but merely sheds light on how good people are capable of parenting in a manner which does not serve the emotional and intellectual growth of their children.

Have you been raised by toxic parents thinking that some of their actions are normal and acceptable? Or were you able to easily identify the signs that give away the real cause behind their actions?

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5 Ways Enlightenment Changes Your Brain

What is life all about? Why are we here? Why do we have different religions, why do we believe in God? We have been asking these questions for thousands of years. Each culture has its own rituals and traditions that they call spiritual enlightenment. It can be a religious experience, it can also be a state of being reached after years of journey with meditations and similar practices. We want to have the answers because we want to know why we are here. What is the purpose of all this?

Thankfully for us, with the help of neuroscience, we are now able to see what happens to our brains when we reach enlightenment. One of the most thorough researches made on this subject was done by a neuroscientist named Andrew Newberg. In his book “How Enlightenment Changes Your Brain” doctor Newberg demonstrates the scientific data with the help of MRI’s and brain scans along with surveys gathered online from nearly 5000 people.

Enlightenment has different meanings for Eastern and Western civilizations. Eastern civilizations are more concerned with big Enlightenment (which is the end of the journey where you reach a state that permanently changes your being) and Western civilizations are more small enlightenment oriented, meaning, little experiences that eventually take you to the big change, the big transformation.

According to Andrew Newberg there are 5 steps that prepare us to our journey to Enlightenment. The first one is The Desire to change. Of course all of us would say yes if we were asked if we wanted to change or not. But once this becomes our reality, we can then truly say we are ready to take this step. To make this easier, we can take notes and write down what we want from change and what it means to us.

The second step is to be Prepared for the Change. This means we need to be mentally and emotionally ready to change and be determined for it. If we are not OK with it we can not be ready. This process takes a lot of thinking and preparation. We can get help from meditation or yoga, practices that help us be in the present moment and that give us certain kind of spiritual awareness.

The third step is Creating a Ritual for it. This can again be by meditation or prayer. When we get into the habit of this ritual, we slowly start to rewire our brains into accepting and welcoming this transformation. It helps us get rid of our anxiety for future and for the present moment. It also helps us think clearer.

During the 4th step, we Surrender to the Experience. If we are there, then we are already more than half way ready for our spiritual transformation. We feel a sudden drop in ourselves like almost as if we are losing ourselves and our worries. In this step we will still have doubts and many more questions to answer, but we will also be ready to accept whatever answer comes our way.

The last step in getting ready for our transformation is being able to Reflect on Ourselves. This is a level of consciousness where we can go back to who we are and think about and feel what this experience really means to us.

But if we put all of this under a microscope, or in an MRI so to speak in our case, what really happens to us along the way? How does our brain react to all of this? Are there really changes that are visible to us? Does our brain really undergo a series transformations that eventually take us to the big state of Enlightenment?

The MRI’s and brain scans show that our brains really do go through a series of changes.

1. A sense of intensity

The area in our brain that is called the limbic system looks less red and more blue, green and yellow in a normal state. When the activity increases so does the blood flow to that area. When we experience spiritual enlightenment, our limbic system suddenly receives more blood flow and under a scan it lights up with red. This also shows an increase in dopamine. Dopamine facilitates the understanding of greater reality. It gives us a sense of fulfillment.

2. Feeling of clarity

This experience affects our thalamus. In our brain it is placed towards the back with two circular areas side by side. In a normal state, both sides appear similar and equal. However, when we reach a state of mind where we experience a feeling of clarity as if we are looking at life itself from inside out, one side of our thalamus becomes much more active than the other one.

3. Sense of unity

This is the feeling of unity. The feeling of being one with the Universe and being one with the greatest creative force in the Universe. The area affected in our brain when we reach this state is our Parietal lobe. It is in the very back of the brain. Scientists discovered when people reach a deep state of consciousness during a spiritual practice like speaking in tongues, or when they meditate or pray, there is a sudden decrease of activity in this region.

4. Feeling of surrender

This is when we feel we surrender ourselves physically, mentally and emotionally to our experience. Whether it is a religious experience or a non religious experience. The state of Enlightenment does not mean becoming religious. In fact there are quite a lot of people who do not practice any religion and who do not believe in an omniscient or omnipresent God, but they still experience a spiritual enlightenment. Because the true Enlightenment is not connected to any God or religion. It is a Universal feeling. During this state our past, present and future do not bother us anymore. We fully surrender ourselves to the answers that we found. This causes changes in our frontal lobe. The scans and pictures show that the activity in this region of our brain completely melts away. It disappears.

5. Rewiring the Brain 

This is the last stage of Enlightenment. During this stage we see a decrease both in the frontal and back lobes of our brains. These areas become completely blue in the pictures. Here, we are capable of remembering ourselves, and reflecting back onto ourselves and who we really are and what we do and how this experience has changed us.

The fact is, every single person who reaches Enlightenment have one thing in common: They’re lives have changed for the better completely. They are transformed and they look at everything from a different dimension where there is no fear or anxiety or worry. We finally find ourselves completely in peace with the truth and with the Universe. We become one and the same.


The 5 Stages of a Spiritual Awakening

5 Stages of a Spiritual Awakening

What does it really mean to awaken? It is fair to say that awakening is a journey from limitation to freedom – from unconscious to conscious.

Whether you intentionally choose to take this journey or an unexpected experience propels you onto the path, once you start, there is no turning back. It is true that the journey might be quite arduous at times, but no matter how long or challenging, the extraordinary destination far exceeds any bumps and bruises along the way.

The end result of Full Awakening is freedom from personal suffering, clarity of mind, boundless joy, inner peace and the ability to live an incredibly fulfilling life. The awakened state holds everything we have ever desired, and so much more.

There are 5 Stages of Awakening, and when you understand each stage, and where you are on the journey, you can recognize the sign posts along the way, and the possible pitfalls to avoid.

Please use the following guide as a way to navigate the stages of awakening, but keep in mind that everyone’s experience is different. There is no right or wrong way to wake up. Like art, it is all beautiful and perfect.

Stage 1 of Awakening: The Stage of the False-self

Subtle awareness of “something more” begins to grow.

In Stage 1 of Awakening, we are most asleep, and we do not even know that we are asleep. We are entrenched in mass consciousness and going through the motions of life, generally following the rules of culture and laws of the land.

We don’t usually question reality or seek answers beyond what is necessary for survival and maintenance of a lifestyle.

Our identities define us and we live within the construct of religion, culture and/or society.

We may even play the part of victim or perpetrator.

Unconscious programming runs us, and, as a result, we see the world in black and white – good and bad. We likely process a rigid model of the world according to our specific programing.

Because there is a great desire to fit in and be accepted, in this stage, it is common to sacrifice our needs and compromise our values in order to receive approval and be included in our desired community, be that family, culture, business, religion, etc…

Self-worth is likely conditional and attached to identity or the roles we play, or there may be other means of proving that we are worthy.

Because the ego generally runs the show, we likely believe we are the ego, with little or no awareness that there is a greater part of us.

In stage one, happiness is based on externals, therefore, in order to feel happy, we try to control reality; other people, places and experiences.

Although we attempt to control our lives, for both happiness and security, it is more than likely that our emotions rule, and our actions and reactions are based on our moment to moment feelings.

We make no connection between our thoughts/beliefs and our experiences in reality, and, therefore, we have no direct ability to consciously create our reality.

Despite our unconscious nature, the first signs of awakening happen during this stage; a “flash feeling” that there is something more, or an inkling of doubt that makes us uncertain about life or reality.

Stage 2 of Awakening – The Stage of Questioning

The doubts experienced in stage one begin to turn into meaningful questions. The first signs of movement from unconscious to conscious are experienced.

In Stage 2 of Awakening, we experience a growing discomfort in our lives. There is a feeling that something is wrong or missing. We begin to question mass consciousness and the validity of rules, beliefs and laws. Things that used to bring us comfort like religion or traditions are no longer satisfying and the places that we once found answers no longer provide relief.

We question our identity but we still hold on to it because we must continue to prove our worth, and we don’t yet know ourselves outside of our human identity. As we question the roles we play, we may feel lost, and even betrayed by others or life in general.

We may even blame religion, family, culture, government or the world for our problems, or maybe we blame specific people for our dysfunctions. As we shift responsibility onto others, we feel powerless over our lives; not yet realizing that in order to take back our power, we must take responsibility. In this stage, we might move from victim to survivor, but we are likely still blaming others and feeling powerless.

We begin to ask, “Who am I? Why am I here?”

Although we are searching for answers, we still hold on to certain limiting beliefs that keep us enslaved in the reality we have known. When we attempt to challenge these beliefs, fear brings us back, keeping us asleep a little longer.

In our discomfort with reality, and our search for answers, we may experience a great deal of confusion, overwhelm, anxiety and even depression. We “keep up” with our lives but we are secretly just “going through the motions.”

As we experience a variety of challenges designed to help us wake up, tolerable discomfort turns into pain and suffering. As our disempowering beliefs are demonstrated in real life situations and relationships, we get our first glimpse of the unconscious programs running our lives, but our desire to fit in and be accepted is likely stronger than any desires to free ourselves. Although this is the beginning of our internal programs breaking down, we are still trying to prove our worth by demonstrating our importance and seeking approval for our efforts.

We begin to understand that happiness cannot be found in the outside world, but we are still playing the game – seeking happiness in other people, places and experiences.

In this stage, there can be a great deal of emotional triggers. We may even experience trauma or remember past trauma. Emotions are generally very strong, and we may feel most fragile or vulnerable. What we do not yet realize is that our issues are coming to the surface to be healed and released.

Even though we are beginning to see the world in a whole new light, we may still possess black and white thinking – maybe more than ever. We are not ready to take responsibility for our lives and, therefore, we make little or no connection between our thoughts and our experiences in reality.

As the outside world no longer satisfies our hunger, the journey inward is about to begin.

Stage 3 of Awakening – The Stage of Introspection

Immense personal/spiritual growth and the start of conscious evolution through self-discovery.

In Stage 3 of Awakening, we begin a journey of introspection. In Stage 2, we rebelled against the external world with little or no success in relieving our pain, suffering or discomfort, so now we retreat as we begin to seek answers inside ourselves.

We start to disentangle from mass consciousness, releasing many limiting beliefs that were programmed into us by asleep parents, teachers, culture, society, religion and media. As we release these beliefs, we may experience both grief and relief. If we spent a life time imprisoned in beliefs that caused emotional suffering, physical hardship and lost happiness, we may grieve for the life we never had, and at the same time, we may feel great relief as we break free from limitation.

As we recognize how asleep we have been, we can clearly see that most people we know are still asleep. We try to wake them up, but our attempts are seen as judgmental and, therefore, met with deaf ears.

Not surprisingly, with our eyes wide open, it is common to experience greater judgment of other people (friends and strangers alike), society and the world. Others may feel our judgment and defensively respond with their own judgment of us. We are seen as different, weird and maybe even crazy. Sooner or later, we decide to keep our growing awareness to ourselves; maybe rationalizing that it’s better to be silent than be judged. At this point, we don’t have a lot of hope that others will wake up.

We are still focused on everything that is wrong in our lives, and in the world, but, at the same time, we have resistance to letting go. The process of letting go is often “the work” in this stage, and, as we learn to let go, Stage 3 is where we may leave unsatisfying jobs, intimate relationships, families, friendships, religions, organizations and any disempowering ways of life. We may disentangle from roles we played, reject our past identity, and there may even be a total withdrawal from society.

Our former model of the world is failing and we no longer see the world in black and white or good and bad. There may be a growing sense that we are all connected, but at the same time we may feel completely disconnected from every other human being. In many ways, we are faced with the dichotomy of life and existence.

The most common attribute of stage three is loneliness. In a sea of billions of people, you may feel like you are the only one awake; no one understands you, and there is no one with whom to connect. At this point, you might begin to question “the questioning” – why did you ever begin this journey? What’s the point of waking up, if you must be alone and lonely? After all, you might have been unhappy when you were asleep but at least you had friends, family and people who cared about you. Now, there is no one. You consider “going back.” You wish you could forget about everything you now know just so you can be part of a family or community. You yearn for “normalcy” in order to fit in with others, but you also know that it is too late. You cannot forget what you have remembered, and despite your loneliness and your desire to fit in, you wouldn’t go back or undo your path even if you could.

Issues of worthiness often surface in this stage, because the ways, in which, we once proved worth no longer work or are no longer available because we left the job or situation that once made us feel worthy. We may still try to seek approval, acceptance or appreciation or get other emotional needs met by those still in our lives, but it doesn’t fulfill us, as it once did, and we are left feeling empty – forced to deal with feelings of unworthiness on our own.

Our desire to fit in and be accepted is slowly being drowned out by our desire to be free and awake.

In the quest for answers and relief from emotional pain, we may embark on some sort of spiritual practice such as meditation, yoga or mindfulness. If we are not using the practice to avoid something, its purpose is likely to get us somewhere, accomplish something or wake up.

In stage three, we may experience the first real sense of power, but, if the ego claims this power, we may have challenging and humbling experiences.

By now, we may be able to see the connection between our thoughts/beliefs and the creation of our reality, and, as a result, we try to control our thoughts, but it is a difficult process because old programs are still running.

We no longer look outside ourselves for happiness, but maybe we don’t yet know how to find it within. Peace and freedom may also take precedence over happiness.

Stage three is often the longest stage and almost always the most challenging, but it is also the most important in terms of awakening.

This stage is marked by the swing between resistance and letting go, with moments of clarity and enlightenment, but they don’t last. It is very common to have multiple experiences of awakening in this stage and even to believe that each one is the final awakening; only to find yourself back in “reality”, hours, days or weeks later. With each experience of awakening, the sense of your higher self grows stronger. You are unknowingly making room for this real self to emerge in your consciousness and integrate in your life.

In stage three, it is common to experience a fear of losing oneself, and you may struggle to maintain a sense of self, but ultimately, toward the end of this stage, an ego-death is inevitable. When the ego loses hold, there is often a realization that there is no point or purpose to life. This can be liberating, like a breath of fresh air, or it can be devastating, resulting in hopelessness and despair. Without point or purpose, we no longer know how to live our lives, and nothing is ever the same.

There is a foreboding sense that awakening will cost you everything, yet, at the same time, there is a greater sense that something inside you is waking up.

Stage 4 of Awakening – The Stage of Resolution

Spiritual awakening is effortlessly experienced in everyday life.

Stage 4 of Awakening is the stage of resolution where your true self has finally overshadowed your false self or ego self. The struggle that you experienced in the first three stages is over and you experience a deep peace and knowing of who you really are, and you are no longer seeking answers. This is fondly known as the Eckart Tolle Stage.

All your beliefs have been overhauled in the past two stages, and the beliefs that remain support harmony and balance. You have mastered the art of letting go, and surrendering to a higher power. You also experience and have access to the inner power you possess, without ego control.

Doubt has been replaced with faith and trust. You are able to see and understand your life in such a way that your past and present all makes sense. You have forgiven everyone for everything, including yourself.

Unconscious programming has been replaced with consciousness, and there are no emotional or mental prisons holding you captive.

You take responsibility for your entire life, no longer blaming anyone for anything. As you have freed yourself, you have freed all the people who have ever been effected by your judgment and expectations.

You are no longer trying to prove your worth. You now know and own your intrinsic worth, and, as a result, you experience unconditional self-love.

Although you might still be alone on your journey, you experience a deep and profound connection to all of life and the sense of loneliness has likely faded into all oneness. The need and desire for the old paradigm of relationships has shifted and you no longer yearn to fit in or be “normal.”  You allow yourself to be exactly who you are, without needing approval or acceptance from anyone. You no longer have a need to change anyone or help those you love wake up, and you are pleasantly surprised that some people you know are actually awakening. All your relationships improve, and the new people who come into your life are better aligned with who you are.

In this stage, you integrate your insights and develop greater understanding for the journey you have been on. You may teach, mentor or share, but not because you feel you have to, or because you need to, but only because it brings you joy, and you are guided to do so. You may have a compelling desire to support others on their journey or you may have no inclination whatsoever. If you take the role of teacher, mentor, healer or coach, you do not take responsibility for others, but rather you empower them to empower themselves. You don’t take anything personally, and another’s behavior has little, or no, effect on you.

During stage four, it is common to have some sort of spiritual practice, such as meditation, yoga or mindfulness, but not because you are trying to get somewhere or accomplish something (as in the previous stage), but rather because it feels good to you, and it is a natural expression of your life.

You may also experience increased intuition and the ability to access infinite intelligence, as if, you have a direct line to unlimited information.

This stage is marked by living in the moment.

You have made peace with the realization that there is no purpose or point to life, and, as a result, it is effortless to live in the present moment. Your love for life and all living beings overflows unconditionally with gratitude and appreciation as a common state of being.

The concepts of good and bad have dissolved, and, yet, you have the full knowing that inside everyone and everything is love.

You take stock of yourself, realizing that you are still you. You are free from ego-control, and no “authentic parts” have been lost in the journey to awakening. Your personality may be quite the same, but you are likely more easy-going and light-hearted.

Either you have found a livelihood that is aligned with who you are, or you have made peace with your present day livelihood.

There is really no thought of happiness because you no longer need anything to make you happy. You have realized that the secret to happiness is living in the moment and it is now easy to be present at all times.

You have learned how to master your thoughts and beliefs, but, surprisingly, you may have no desire to change anything in your life.

Although you likely experience a full range of emotions, emotions no longer rule you or control your choices or relationships.

Your higher self has integrated in your body, and you live your life as this real self.

You are finally conscious and awake, and grateful that your past “asleep-self” had the courage and tenacity to make this journey. It was worth it – a million times over.

Stage 5 of Awakening – The Stage of Conscious Creation

The ability to consciously create one’s life from the awake state.

Many people arrive at stage four and mistakenly believe it is the final stage of awakening, but it is actually a bridge to an even greater experience of awakening.

In Stage 5 of awakening, you experience, and deepen, all the attributes of stage four, but you also step into your power as conscious creator.

Although there is no pre-ordained point or purpose to life, you now understand that the point and purpose of life can be anything that you choose, and you integrate this understanding by consciously choosing the purpose of your life, because that is the point. Work and play merge into one, and you experience peace and fulfillment equally in both.

You no longer do anything out of obligation or need, but, instead, you are guided through inspiration and pure desire.

You experience a direct connection to all of life, and you are inspired to create in a whole new manner. Through intuitive connection with Infinite Intelligence, you might develop new paradigms of community building, teaching or leadership.

At this stage, you have the ability to attract relationships and form communities that support the betterment of humanity.

Since you have mastered your thoughts and beliefs, you can now consciously create the life you desire; living in the moment, while also creating for the future.

In pure connection with Prime Creator, you are channel of expression in all you do.

Whatever stage you might now be experiencing, you cannot get it wrong and there are no tests to pass. Awakening is simply a natural process, just like the caterpillar that awakens as the butterfly.

A common question is, how long does each stage take? The time we spend in each stage is not predetermined, but we can move through a stage quicker and easier when we utilize a mindfulness practice of letting go. Letting go is truly the secret of awakening.

As more and more people awaken, a threshold of awakening will be experienced, and the masses will awaken in a much a different paradigm than those of us who have already awakened or who are awakening now. The stages of awakening will be less defined and maybe even disappear altogether.

No matter where you are on your journey to awakening, you are exactly where you need to be.

in love, grace & gratitude,

About the Author:

As a Transpersonal Life Coach for over 18 years, Nanice coaches people all over the world to live their dreams, bridging the gap from imagination to realization. Her expertise lies in the areas of conscious manifestation and spiritual awakening. As a Theta Healer and Master Neuro Linguistic Practitioner, Nanice specializes in helping people make quantum jumps from where they are to where they want to be. By using powerful and proven manifestation techniques, she can teach you how to tap into the power of the Universe and create the life you desire. Nanice’s very unique coaching style is often referred to as the “Nanice Effect.”

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